For some reason, today I need to vent. This is a post that has been building, festering even, inside me. I don't want to just to spew rage, but to unload at a very specific type of person - adults who make children feel bad about themselves.
I don't know when in their lives that this behavior becomes part of who some people are, but it seems to start as children. All children will say mean things to each other without thinking, but there are those who seem to be almost gleeful when their target cries or lashes out or withdraws. I see this happen sometimes and I want to shake the parents and tell them that this will not be a trait that will serve their children well later in life. Because, one day, when they are grown, they might still be mean to children and that is not ok.
I read a post this week about a child who was made to feel ashamed by her new stepmother. You can read it for yourself at Blissful Babble. It knocked me off my feet. My father (who I have a decent, if somewhat unengaged relationship with) has been married to the same women since I was 9. For the record, she and I have no relationship. The funny thing is, I don't really know why she is one of those people who wants to make me feel bad about myself. I pray all the time for this to change and for God to heal our relationship, but so far it hasn't happened. I have come across other people like this over the years and they always confuse me. I don't know where this type of behavior comes from, I only know that it is one of the cruelest things in the world.
It has taken me years to come to the realization that I am good enough. I still struggle with blessings from God because I don't always feel worthy of them. But, I know that I make a point to tell my children how fantastic, worthy, smart and capable they are. I hope that this will block the inevitable meetings with these people that they will have over the years and I hope that they realize that I know them much more than some silly adult with a mean streak.
See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven. Matthew 18:10 ESV